Guest Blog: How to balance Work and Life? Being A Workaholic


shutterstock_234650602The modern day is a stressful, complicated place. We are wearing so many proverbial “hats” and are constantly pulled in tons of different directions. We want to focus on our career, but we also want to be good parents. We want to take time to experience life, but we also want to make money and prepare ourselves for retirement. All of these things add up to a lot of stress and a lot of seemingly contradictory wants and needs.

One of the hardest things about modern life is learning how to achieve that elusive work-life balance. Being a workaholic may seem like a fairly innocuous trait, but it can sap you and ultimately leave you wishing you had taken more control over your life when you had the chance. What follows are just a few ways that you can work towards obtaining that elusive balance so many of us are looking for.

 

Leave Your Work At Work

This is really hard for people to do. For some, they literally take work home with them. They spend their evenings filling out paperwork or catching up on correspondence. For others, even when they leave the office, they are still thinking about whatever it is that they were working on. What this ultimately means is that  you never stop working. As difficult as it is, you have to be able to leave the “work you” at the office and not bring it home with you.

 

Take Time for You

This is probably the most crucial element of obtaining a work-life balance. You have to be able to cultivate elements of your personality and interest beyond work. You have to find ways to de-stress and to leave work, well, at work. For those of us who have spent our entire adult lives so career focused, changing that aspect of ourselves is not easy, but it is worth it. Too many people regret, at the end of their life, that they did not work harder to cultivate themselves.

Do not just let your vacation time pile up unused, you are given it for a reason. Vacation is the reward you give yourself for being a “good adult” and keeping up with your responsibilities. Hobbies are a great way to keep your mind and body active when you aren’t at work. Nobody wants to be “hollow” or “one-sided,” but this is exactly what a workaholic is.

Whether it is a physical activity, you join a club, you start meditating, you paint, travel, whatever – these activities will not only help reduce your stress, they give your life meaning beyond going to work each and every day. These are things that you can do with your friends and family, or as a means to meet new people, bringing greater intimacy and companionship into your life as well.

 

Delegate

This is something that many of us could do a lot more of. One of the stressful things about modern life is that we have simply added more to our to-do list. Mothers who work are still just that, mothers, which means their job doesn’t end when they leave work at the end of the day. This is why it is important to delegate tasks when you can. Giving the children a list of weekly chores not only instills in them an understanding of work ethic and productive activity, it also means that you do not have to do those things.

Split the chores up between the whole family and suddenly everyone has more time, without sacrificing the cleanliness of the home or at the expense of necessary errands. In the end, delegating is good for the whole family. It teaches children responsibility and allows a little bit of extra time for the parents.

Modern life isn’t going to slow down to wait for any of us to catch up, no matter how much we wish it would. We are tasked with trying to live two, three, or more different lives in one lifetime. We are mothers, fathers, managers, scientists, artists, fixers, etc. This can make the modern day world incredibly stressful for people and often, they get a singular focus and become obsessed or insanely focused on just that one aspect of their lives.

For many people, that is work. Work becomes all-encompassing and it consumes us. It does this at the expense of our families, our friends, our hobbies, and the rest of our personality. Finding a good work-life balance is difficult, but it is certainly not impossible. Simple things like leaving your work at work, delegating chores, making time for hobbies or other non-work activities, can make a huge difference in the quality of your life. You will find that you have more time for experience, for companionship, and you feel all-around less stressed out all the time.

 

References:

http://www.webmd.com/women/features/balance-life

http://www.salary.com/14-steps-to-achieving-work-life-balance/


Author Bio

Kelly Everson is an American author and having MA in English literature. After spending time as a writer in some of Health Industries best websites, she now works as an independent researcher and contributor for health news related website like Consumer Health Digest. In her spare time, she does research work regarding Beauty and Women Health, Fitness and lifestyle blogs, which acts as a fuel to her passion of writing. When she is not researching or writing, you can find Kelly staying active, whether it be practicing yoga or taking swimming classes. Connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.

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Human Nature


Why are people in constant conflict?

Religion: That is the first thing that comes to people’s mind. My religion is the right one and yours is not, I am going to heaven and you are not.
Let us assume for a moment that we are all born into one religion. Even better, let us eliminate the existence of sects within a religion. Now we’re all the same. We shouldn’t have to have any conflict right? Wrong.

Race: You do realize that we are still different because of our race, you’re of a color and I am of another. And my color is superior to yours.
Fine let us assume that we’re all the same race, one color and you pick it if you want to.

Politics: It’s true we might believe in the same religion and that we’re of the same race, but my country is a stronger country than yours. We have missiles and you don’t, we went to space and you didn’t.
Good point, let us remove the invisible borders, and let us assume for a moment that we all share one country and it’s called earth. So if you went to the moon, then we all did.

Language: I can’t believe people speak such languages or such dialects, well if only you could speak the same way I do, wouldn’t that be better, at least we could communicate.
Again, for the sake of argument, let us agree that we all have one spoken language and one dialect. After all we’re trying to diffuse any possible tension that may arise.

What about money, I made my first million when I was 30 and you still work from 9 to 5 trying to keep the food on your table.
Excellent point, but again for argument’s sake we all make the same exact money. As a matter of fact, we all have jobs that are equally satisfying, with the same exact benefits; Doctors and teachers all make the same dollar amount. You know what? I take that back. No one gets paid in money, they all have cookie cutter homes and they all receive food on daily basis. The reason they work is for fun. So having a million or a billion dollars means nothing, because no one deals with money anymore.

By now, one would think we have eliminated every possible way a human being might come up with as an excuse to start a conflict. Unfortunately we are far from being there.
– I am 6 feet tall and you are not. I have muscles and you don’t, I have this and you have that.
– I have 5 kids and you have four.
– I am a man and you’re a child.
– I am a boy and you are a girl.

The question is? When does it all end? This goes to show you that even if we try to manipulate the things that we possibly can, the human being will never thrive except on things that makes him feel a step ahead of another. It’s human nature to step on another cause that’s the only way to get closer to what they believe to be success.

It’s a vicious circle; no matter where you start the end result is the same, “conflict”. People got so used to being in conflict that they even created the word “conflict of interest” . Then they moved up a notch in their level of conflict, “conflicting ideas”, “working through our conflicts” etc.. They even created a “conflict resolution research” which ironically involves “Conflict Management” .

I’m sure some of you will object to it and might stir up some conflicting counter arguments, and to that I apologize in advance. As a matter of fact I urge you to forget about having read this article. Just assume it doesn’t exist and things are as normal as you have always been used to them being. This never happened. Listen to my voice,. I will now start counting backward. When I reach “one” you will be fully awake:
Five : You are now in a state of shock at what you have read, but you believe it makes sense.
Four: You somehow start feeling more at ease and believe you should have a different outlook on life and things around you.
Three: You are getting closer and closer to reality, but you’re not afraid anymore, and you have nothing to show off but your purity.
Two: You are now re-emerging , and you feel great. You are an equal.
One: You are now fully awake and present with us. Welcome to life.

— Raghid Khalil Khalil